The Journey of the Broken Heart
It seems that those who go through a broken heart are either so afraid of relationship they resolve never to go there again or they jump at the first person who tells them they are in any way remotely attractive.
I was a jumper – mainly because, in my deepest heart, I still believed that true love was out there. I simply hadn’t found it yet. Well, needless to say, rebound relationships rarely work and I found myself worse off than before.
Broken, desperately lonely, I was forced into doing some very deep soul searching. It was a difficult and hopelessly lost time. Healing was slow going.
But every time I reached a milestone, I would mark it with a symbol of some kind so I wouldn’t forget – sometimes a picture, sometimes a special ornament or something new just for me.
I wouldn’t let myself stop believing that I was going to get through this and find happiness again.
I had to realize that love comes in all kinds of packages…
Frozen and unable to write or create, I found other ways express my emotions and get them out there into the open.
I joined a gym and ran and ran.
I spent hours at the park lying on a blanket until I was ready to go home.
I began buying lingerie that I was determined I would wear for a new husband. (yup, I did and I enjoyed trying it on my new body I was sculpting at they gym.)
I did what I had to financially, even renting out rooms in my apartment.
I started a “Strength Journal” where I recorded anything I did that made me just a little stronger, from activities to quotes to conversations.
When I was weak, I would go back and re-read them.
I cut out pictures that depicted the life I wanted, put words and poems with them that depicted my future vision, and put them carefully into what I called my “Dream Book”. It inspires me to this day, truth be told.
“God, am I too old to find a real Knight in Shining Armor…?”
I tried every dating site, had phone conversations, read about dating and healing. It was scary at first but I knew that I wasn’t going to find new love sitting at home.
I began to train more in what I loved to do – coaching, of course, which led me into laser focusing on what I do today.
By opening myself up to new friendships, I started to trust more.
I was challenged to truly move beyond the places where my heart was stuck.
Step by step, I learned and grew and healed and the crying became less and less.
Yes, I kissed a lot of toads, which disappointed me more than once, but I used this to propel me forward and keep me learning.
Amazingly, the more I grew, the more sure of myself I became and the less desperate I was.
I began to enjoy my independence and, even though I was over 50, it almost felt as if I had grown up.
I knew that I wanted to be in a relationship, to have someone with whom to share my life, but I was now more than prepared to wait for the right man.
“I will always believe in True Love”
This was the intention that ran consistently beneath my life even though I wasn’t always aware of it.
And then… there he was – my true love.
He helped me with my car “on a dark and stormy night” as he tells it.
He was everything I asked for, everything I had written down, and he was so much worth waiting for.
Was it easy? Yes and No. We discovered so much about each other in those first few months, the most important being that we were on the same page in so many ways.
That first year was crucial. It built the foundation for our “Over The Moon, Never Leave Me Love”.
Someone is Waiting to Love You and to be Loved By You
It took me 5 long, arduous years but I now know that I can help others find their way because if I can, anyone can.
This is why I am now focusing my coaching on broken hearts. Women with broken hearts who don’t want to be alone for the rest of their lives but are too afraid to go for love because they are so afraid of being hurt again.
They are suffering from broken trust.
No one should have to stay in that place of pain.
And no one should have to be alone if they don’t want to be.
It has been my joy to walk with clients going through life changing experiences since 2003.
Having overcome a food addiction, a difficult marriage and subsequent divorce followed by the harsh uphill climb of starting over (whew!), I found my passion wrapped up in restoring hope in those have lost it.
And that brings us here – to this blog!
Love is so worth the Journey to get here.
I want to give you a personal glimpse into our Every Day Kind Of Love; the Adventure we live because we have kept our love alive – despite the past. For both of us, it’s a totally different love than we have ever known.
And it’s intentional. We grew into it and we focus on building it.
It’s the kind of love you never believe could be there when you’re healing from your broken heart.
So I’m opening up our lives to you to bring you hope and help you to believe that it CAN HAPPEN FOR YOU!
I’ll show you how…
How to rebuild your courage to trust again.
How to rebuild your confidence to actually date and have fun doing it (because, really, you won’t find him unless you learn to open your heart again).
How to recapture your Beauty. Yes, for real! How to love who you are inside. How to find the strongest part of you – your Diamond identity. And how to bring her up to the surface and out into the world.
My Professional Journey
Institute for Life Coach Training
Relationship Coaching Institute
Currently training with Robbins Madanes Coach Training
Specialties: Life Coach, Trust Again Mentor, Speaker, Trainer, Author